Thoughts from a (girl) Gamer

Tara Voelker's thoughts. A lot about video games, a little about life

About Tara

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Once upon a time this page told you cool stuff about me. Like, I’ve worked at Volition and Irrational. It talked about my cool wedding and ghost hunting. It talked about my work in game accessibility. Buuttttttt I totally stopped updating everything like two states ago, and it was woefully out of date. So, I just deleted it. Maybe one day I’ll update it again, but not today.

The important things to know are I like video games, and helping everyone play video games. You can get pretty much everything else off twitter.



16 responses to “About Tara

  1. Josh June 18, 2009 at 8:07 am

    Hey, Tara

    I couldn’t find a direct easy to follow link for your email (read: I didn’t look past this page) so here I am! You got a nice site, I dig the motivation to do something. I put my email address that I check in the comment section. I’ll see you at school.


  2. Jay October 1, 2009 at 3:48 pm

    Ya I just found this Raychul and she’s a tool, ugly and leaves little to the brain about how she reviews games. I can understand your frustration. But at least the site is great and showing what real girl gamers are!

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  4. Nicky January 11, 2010 at 2:14 pm

    You’re a hypocrite. If you have a problem with combining looks with gaming, perhaps you ought to remove all photos of yourself from the website.

    Oh, and the “OMGZ girl gamerz?!” argument is sooooo 2008.

    • ladieaupair January 11, 2010 at 4:53 pm

      I think you may have missed my point. I have a problem with using your body for attention, especially if you don’t have anything worth paying attention to besides suggestive pictures (which I don’t have posted.) But, that’s a discussion for another day. I don’t feel getting into that again right now.

    • Kristianna January 11, 2010 at 9:12 pm

      Gaming is one of the few industries that openly encourages female intelligence. When women start posting clad and tasteless photos of themselves to feel heard it sets back the hard work of those who work so hard to make it based on that, hard work. We’re not against photographs, we’re against degradation in the gaming industry (especially the female gaming industry). Please, by all means post a photo of yourself, but make it tasteful, make it classy. I can think of 10 different people I know close to me who actually have valuable input on the gaming industry who don’t need to show their body to be heard. This is the type of message we’re trying to deliver. And, from female to female, I really hope you can embrace this type of message and even more, share it.

      We can talk about it more in depth later. Thank

  5. Nicky January 12, 2010 at 4:28 am

    I understand your point completely, but I think you’re failing to execute a point that was made over and over again in 2007-2008. It’s the slippery slope argument: You say you started this site due to Raychul Moore, and she chooses to post pictures of herself alongside her gaming hobby. But where do you draw the line? You’ve posted pictures of yourself… do you think for a moment that even so called “classy” photos don’t have some impact on your hits or the attitude of others towards you? What about the fact you’ve announced from even the URL that you are “girl gamers,” thereby implying you have all the girl parts AND play games? Is that not nearing the same thing?

    If this was a point you truly wanted to make, you would’ve chosen writing handles that were non gender specific, never mentioned “girl gamers,” and never posted photos of yourselves. You would’ve left in the anomynity, and allowed your writing to be judged soley for writing’s sake, and not in any connection with your gender. If you truly felt strongly about your point of view, you would’ve removed all personal aspects and simply put your writing out there first and foremost, and allowing only that to be observed by the gaming community.

    This is why I used the word hypocrite.

    Frankly, it’s not a message I embrace at all. Having been an active member of the gaming community a few years ago, I learned from my mistakes. It isn’t about taking the power back, empowering other girls to be “loud and proud,” and it’s not even about trying to be treated as equals. Gaming is genderless, and should’ve remained that way. But I forever left the “scene” because the community grew so toxic to be apart of for the obvious reasons. No, I will have my gaming anonymous and genderless, and people are free to make their own assumptions. I would encourage anyone else, male or female, to do the same.

    • ladieaupair January 12, 2010 at 11:23 am

      I didn’t like the point that Raychul used her body to call attention to her gaming hobby… not that the both existed. And then I was upset that once she had your attention she had nothing to say. I was upset the mindless, part time models, and not the real women gamers, were the ones who were in the media. I know that being a girl in the gaming industry can get you ahead if you work it right. I mean, you’re a girl in a sea of boys and that makes you stick out and easy to remember. It you want to use it, fine. I just wanted to prove the point the when you have a girl that games, the most likely outcome isn’t people like Raychul. And to prove that, I would have to show I was a girl. So anonymous isn’t for me.

      And, I’ve only written one article that was gender specific, so I’m not sure why you brought that up. And I’m not sure why you think that I feel like girls should “take power back.” Because I haven’t said anything like that at all.

      Either way, I do respect your opinion and I love hearing other people’s points of view, even if they think I’m wrong. Thanks for sharing.

    • Kristianna January 12, 2010 at 11:56 pm

      I think Tara really covered most of what I wanted to say, but I do have a few more things to add.

      This site takes a huge chunk of time to manage. We put a lot of ourselves in the things we do. While the site is mainly directed towards gaming, we do write on other subjects as well. With all of these factors, we want to share with others who we are. One of them is that I’m a female. Should it matter? No, but will it realistically affect someone’s opinion at one point in time or another? Probably. When I read an article (on any subject) I love to get to know the person behind it’s content. Not because it affects my opinion on the article’s content, but rather just understanding someone and their point of view more. I don’t feel it’s necessary to hide who I am in the dark. I’m not throwing it in anybody’s face either. My profile is there, and if someone chooses to read it, so be it.

      In no way am I pursuing the “loud and proud” road. I’m pursuing a positive image of women in the gaming industry. They’re fairly different. Things will never be equal, and I understand this. I advocate a positive image of men in the industry as well. I speak more on the behalf of women because I feel there are many women who don’t understand the negative effects of exploiting their bodies for gaming media. Does this mean hide who you are? No, but you don’t need to skip around nude in a quest for ratings. They are different, and I think that is a fairly obvious line to draw.

      Great point and thanks for your input.

  6. katie C. January 23, 2010 at 3:57 pm

    You are lovely and I agree with what you said about the Ray..chu..l? girl… haha I vouch for your realness and your gaming ability! Also the fact that you have professional experience, not just some girl who likes to show hr boobs and mentin video games once in a while. Your technical ability is what will set you apart, and not taking yourself super seriously is perfect hhaah
    And a note to others, I vouch for Tara, I have seen her work firsthand – our companies worked cooperatively on a game a few years ago for a looong time.
    Go Tara. Love your work 🙂


  7. Kat January 23, 2010 at 6:53 pm

    Pretty new pictures 🙂 I think I may try getting into Street Fighter… I know practice must be had.. When is the tounrey you are coordinating?

    • ladieaupair January 23, 2010 at 7:14 pm

      It wouldn’t to be for a while… couple months away… We just started looking for venues this week. If you are interested in learning Street Fighter though you should come visit at my apartment. Mike is crazy good at it, and so are a lot of my other friends. They can whip you into tourney shape in no time.

  8. whoami September 2, 2010 at 10:03 am

    I will expose the issue for myself but I can’t side with you sorry. I know you post pic sof yourself online on here and elsewhere and so I cna’t side with you. I would if the clothing was less revealing.

    • ladieaupair September 2, 2010 at 11:22 am

      I’m a little confused by your response. I just want to say there is 1 suggestive picture of me online. Just the one, and it’s only on this site. And, it’s not crazy scandalous. Secondly, it was to prove a point. Did you read the article that was associated with it at all?

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