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In response to recent Twitter Events – The Fore River Story

Wow. So, basically I tweeted about a horrible experience at a restaurant with a anti-Islamic owner, and now I’ve gotten retweeted a bajillion times. I’m already seeing me being misquoted, so I wanted to go ahead and write down exactly what happen and share .

Background:  Just up the street there is a restaurant that my husband and I frequent. We’re on first name basis with most of the staff, and the owner. We’ve even got their loyalty card. The place is in walking distance and has beer, so we’re there pretty frequently.

It’d been a little bit crazy today (you know, the whole city on lock down thing) so we weren’t really in the mood to cook. We went to Fore River Grille in North Weymouth for dinner. We walked in, sat down, and placed a drink order.

The owner, Teresa, walked over smiling. No big deal, like we said, we were regulars. Then she just said to us. “I wanted to let you guys know this is a Muslim free zone! ” And just kept smiling.

Dumb founded, I just said, “Wow. Not all terrorists are Muslim. Timothy Mcveigh wasn’t, he was Christian. Want to hate others to?”

She replied, “Yeah, but that was 20 years ago. All the current terrorists are Muslims. It’s true. Name a terrorist attack more recent that wasn’t done Muslims.” She was completely serious.

I was completely floored. At this point I said, “I’m going to eat somewhere else,” grabbed my sweatshirt and left.

As I began to walk out, she started to say she was sorry. I kept walking.

My husband, who was with me at the restaurant, says that after I left Teresa said “I was just joking.”

Max said to her “I get you are joking, but it’s not funny. A Muslim woman has already been assaulted in Mass. today because of this, so it’s just not cool.”

Teresa kept saying she was sorry and didn’t mean to offend me. Max then also left.

The apology doesn’t mean much though, because I have a zero tolerance policy on people getting discriminated against for the race, sex, sexual orientation,  religion… pretty much whatever. And making jokes about that stuff, it’s not cool either.

I have strong moral convictions. I can’t give my money to a business that is owned by a woman who thinks it’s funny to say that she won’t let people of a particular religion at her establishment, or who legitimately meant that all terrorists are Muslims.

I’m now getting more mentions on twitter than I would ever have time to respond to, so I’m just posting this.

I want to thank everyone who is supporting me in my choice, and I’m glad I’m not alone in this fight. Your support means soooo much,


Thank you.



9 responses to “In response to recent Twitter Events – The Fore River Story

  1. Kalena Michele (@KalenaTweets) April 19, 2013 at 8:30 pm

    Good on you, girl! We need more Americans like you and your husband in this world. Keep doing good with your life.

  2. kip152 April 19, 2013 at 9:22 pm

    I agree with you that the joke was uncool. Prejudice of any kind angers me to no end. I also understand why you walked out and refused to accept her apology – at that moment when you were so justifiably upset.
    Now comes the hard part. Zero tolerance is never a good idea. How can anyone be a peacemaker without reaching out to those with whom you disagree? If it were me, I’d try to reach out to Teresa now that everyone’s blood pressure is back to normal, accept her apology, as it seems as though it was sincere, and begin a dialogue.
    I’m not judging you, just giving my thoughts.

  3. Ian April 19, 2013 at 11:22 pm

    Kip – perhaps a good start might be printing out the wikipedia page on terrorist attacks in the USA and getting her to read it. Pipe bombs, snipers anthrax… take your pick. and somewhat unsurprisingly, religious grounds is a small minority of cases.

  4. larah April 20, 2013 at 5:29 am

    Brilliant. well done

  5. JennyB April 20, 2013 at 9:07 am

    As my two cents, Timothy McVeigh was in no way a Christian. Just cuz he may have said that, doesn’t make it so. I commend you for leaving. Discrimination shouldn’t be tolerated.

    She should’ve said this is a “terrorist free zone”

  6. lynnindenver April 20, 2013 at 7:40 pm

    Walking out was the right choice. And yes, a review on Yelp of “stopped going because of this” is also justified.

  7. Pau Amma April 22, 2013 at 12:58 pm

    I wish I owned a restaurant. You’d eat free for life.

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