Thoughts from a (girl) Gamer

Tara Voelker's thoughts. A lot about video games, a little about life

Sex Sells

by Tara

tara11Yeah, that picture is of me. Did it get your attention? I hoped it did, because that is all it is there for. I put that picture there because sex sells. Sex sells everything, and yes, that includes video games. If it didn’t Tera Patrick wouldn’t be involved in the DLC for Saint’s Row 2. If it didn’t the girl on girl sex scene in Mass Effect wouldn’t have been a big deal. It was though, because sex sells… big time.

This happens to put girl gamers in an awkward place. We want your attention and are trying hard to get it, legitimately. We write articles, reviews, walkthroughs… We kick your ass on XBox Live and even help develop the games you play.We explain that we are legit as any other gamer and we’re all the same, just with different equipment. But you don’t hear us, and that’s where things go down hill.

Like I said, sex sells. Sex sells a lot. To make matters worse, there are people who understand that they can use it to get attention. There are girls, who play games, who use it to get attention. As a friend of mine recently said, “Success in a capitalist society is determined by number of hits on the site, and midriffs generate traffic.” You can see where this is headed.

While looking for a banner for the site, I learned that google image searching “gamer girl” is not safe for work, especially if you don’t have safe search enabled. Most of the pictures that pop are naked women with conveniently placed controllers or game cartridges. To make matters worse, on the first page there was Raychul, the inspiration, or more appropriately the frustration, that led to me making this site.  (Note- originally the blog was made because I was angry over a poorly written review by Raychul on Saints Row 2, which I worked on. I wasn’t mad she didn’t like the game, I was mad that the review sucked. So I saw this sucky review, and then the half naked girl who had written it.)

I won’t lie, I was curious as to what Raychul was up to this time. So, I followed the link. The first image that pops up is the little blondie herself with her hand and a Guitar Hero guitar over her breasts. The first lines of text under her picture are “Raychul Moore loves to be scared, she loves video games, and was stoked this year when she went to the Adult Entertainment Expo and got her boob licked by her favorte porn star.” Raychul’s article was full of pictures, but no worth while content. I had just wasted five minutes of my life.

It really sickened me. It’s sad the girls getting the attention are the ones flashing their chests and not the ones saying something worth listening to.

There are a lot of things that you can say in response to people like Raychul. Can they really be satisfied knowing that their site is being visited because of their bodies and not their content? Is it really okay to seduce people into hearing their thoughts? Is it worth degrading the name of all girl gamers every where to get website hits? Probably not… but in the end, none of it really matters. Sex will always sell and there is no way to stop anyone from using their body the way girls like Raychul do. It does bring up some interesting thoughts though.

There is a ton of stuff on the internet. What am I supposed to do to get my stuff noticed with people like Raychul around? Pay for advertisements? Spam emails to people? Or fight fire with fire and show off my body? It just makes my head spin as even more thoughts start creeping into my head.

Is it okay to flash some skin to grab someone’s attention and then hold their attention with real, full, interesting content? Should I use being a girl to my advantage? Should I move some of my personal boundaries so I can grab your attention? What if I posted the picture I have above as my site banner? Would I resent girls like Raychul so much if what they what had to say beneath their half naked pictures was actually worth reading? Should I become one of them for attention?

I don’t think it’s something that I am going to do…  again… after this article that is. I’d rather show you the faces of the girl gamers trying to get your attention. They’re interesting and fully clothed.


I’d rather give the more modest (and most likely more intelligent) ladies the voice they need.

I know that sex sells, but I’m not ready to to sell out and join that crowd. Although I hope my picture above grabbed your attention, I really hope that this article is what kept it. I hope that I have raised your consciousness and you’ll look beyond pictures to explore what really matters; content.

EDIT note from a later date: So, I still don’t like girls with nothing to say who just want attention. And in this piece, I attacked one person in particular I thought did that.  Raychul. Since this was written, I do have different views on her in particular. Read the follow up here.


25 responses to “Sex Sells

  1. Marz April 6, 2009 at 3:27 am

    I agree, games are a very dick-centric racket most of the time and that’s not a good thing. when i read this i immediately thought back to when assassin’s creed was a hot pre-release and jade raymond was constantly in the press plugging it. every time i went to post a comment on the game, there were a hundred others from horny teenage boys about how hot she was. we’ll guess what, she’s also probably a lot smarter and certainly a lot more successful than any of those jackasses. yeah, girls are hot, we all like that, but the whole gaming culture needs to finally surpass its puberty and grow up already.

  2. Kate April 6, 2009 at 2:36 pm

    Let’s do it.

  3. Peter April 6, 2009 at 2:57 pm

    shoot if i know a girl is in to games she is automatically hot … no skin showing necessary but you are right its kinda retard that other girls use there body to obtain what the seek just becuase in todays world smart and most women dont get the credit they deserve cause of half clothed hoochies

  4. Peter April 6, 2009 at 2:59 pm

    smart and modest… thats what i meant lol

  5. Kristianna April 6, 2009 at 5:28 pm

    Wow, you put up a picture of me. I love you 🙂

    I wish I could digg this. I really want to. This article fucking rocks!

    Remember, the giant penis gamer achievement exists. Well it’s about as real as earning one for my ta-ta’s…

  6. Kristianna April 6, 2009 at 8:06 pm

    Oh haha! so I left this up and Chris saw the pic of you, he just about crapped his pants. The article instantly became interesting to him 🙂

    Thus proving the point 🙂

  7. ladieaupair April 6, 2009 at 8:33 pm

    Yeah, I am pretty sexy.

  8. Jacob Pederson April 8, 2009 at 11:09 am

    Came from the escapist, not a google search 🙂 You didn’t mention your religious affiliation above, but it pertains. The reason sex sells, produces web hits, or causes car accidents, is because we are apes. Great apes, but still apes. We are sexually differentiated. Take a cross-section of human brain tissue and show it to a neurologist. They can tell you if it’s a male brain or a female one.

    The differentiation is what does it . . . sets off our fairness detectors like crazy. And it happens on both side of the gender divide. I guarantee if I posted a alluring photo of myself on, it would scare away hits. That’s not fair either!

    What can we do about it? We can frown about it, gawk at it, or we can do what you did; post a sexy picture and provide thoughtful commentary. However, no mater what we do, sex will still sell, and short of additional evolution toward Hermaphroditism . . . advertisement will always contain lewdness as a component.

    If it really bothers you that much, I can suggest a temporary solution. Adblock plus for your firefox, and a sledgehammer for your television 😉

    • zombiemoloch April 21, 2009 at 11:33 am

      Nah I don’t want to smash my television. I have yet to finish watching the end of Battlestar Galactica 🙂

      Back to the subject though. I believe you and some of the other people leaving comments make great points, that while it may really grab you for a short while, it’s the content that really matters. Which is what I believe the point she was attempting to make.

      But you really can’t deny the fact that no doubt most men would read an article with a half naked girl posted on the front. Case in point. With attention being veered in that direction I believe women sometimes feel obligated to subject themselves to that at times just to be heard.

      Just a thought.

  9. IsoNeko April 8, 2009 at 1:27 pm

    I would love to Sympathise, but heres the thing. You claim these horribly dressed wannabe gamers are affecting real girls attention when it comes to gaming media, and that someone would rather listen to them, than listen to something a fully dressed girl has to say. While it may be true, it doesn’t just affect other girls. If it comes down to it, being a fully dressed girl over a fully dressed boy will always and I mean ALWAYS make the reader check the Girls option first. While you may not believe that, it is true. You only see more Men in the Media reporting on things, because gaming is and for a long time will be a Male Oriented thing. (Now before you get pissy at that comment, read on)

    Man as an Animal will always want to prove they are the top dog, and as such will play Games. No matter how easy the game, Success in a mans mind is always great. While a woman, stereotypically is never the one who wants to prove they are the top dog. Most women are content just being as they are and don’t need to prove to anyone that they are better at something than someone else.

    The Media tries to imitate a mans competitive side, into obviously fake girl gamers. “This Girl Gamer likes a challenge, and will never back down to a fight. If she’s got the ammo, your going down with her honed killing skills.” Cheesy am I right? It’s reminiscent of what I read on the innanet the other day about a girl with what appeared to be DD Breasts, and a Army Camo vest on. With a Baseball Army Camo hat, and a pair of green Short Shorts. Then when they showed her gaming, it showed a picture of her looking frustrated over her controller, and her thumb blurred out over the A button as if rapidly tapping it, and what could be clearly seen as a Call of Duty 4 Start Screen…With a caption of “Watch out for her, she’ll have you at her knees begging for mercy”…With laughter maybe.

    When was the last time you played Halo 3, and heard a girl scream down your headphone “I’ll 1 vs 1 you, you goddamn noob!”. That’s a man, trying to prove his worth to a random stranger. Or when was the last time you were dominating a girl in TF2, only for them to get revenge and then start Teabagging your corpse.

    • zombiemoloch April 21, 2009 at 11:52 am

      Rest assured we wont get pissy. We actually really appreciate your feedback. Whether we may agree with it or not, you still exercise a really good point.

  10. Paolo April 10, 2009 at 12:51 am

    Actually, I don’t think sex sells. It can grab your attention but only for a moment and in the end it doesn’t really sell very well.

    No matter how beautiful a woman is physically, there are hundreds of other women whose pictures are on the Internet for free – doing some of the most vilest things to their own body to get your attention. But just as it is easy to click on that thumbnail, they are just as quickly discarded.

    The most memorable (usually shocking) movies from Hollywood generally are “R” rated, however the ones that do well at the box office are “G” rated family movies. Up till now, the best selling game console is the Wii and the best selling games are made by Nintendo.

    If sex sold the most games why do games like Leisure Suit Larry, The Guy Game, and The Playboy Game do so horribly bad in terms of sales?

    Flaunting your sexuality certainly can get someone’s attention, but it won’t keep it for long, much less for a sale. You are right in that what really matters is content – what’s inside is what really matters.

  11. Tom Ranson April 18, 2009 at 9:56 am

    I think you’ve hit the nail on the head there. It’s unfortunate but how things seem to work.

    Actually I have been trying to find a female gamer for quite a while to help my cousin and I on a little review site venture. Would love if you would get involved. Let me know what you think.

  12. aXis April 22, 2009 at 1:57 pm

    You are damn right. It’s very unfortunate that females gamers…have to suffer such “truths”. To me gaming is, and always will, be about gaming. What WE get out of whatever games we play, you know? Real gamers don’t “waste” hours and hours on a game for the hell of it. We play endlessly because it’s important to us. Video games are interactive books, the honest ones at least. It stirs up emotions inside of us…that we can’t help but fall into. And we play and play to see how it all ends. FUCK anyone else who thinks otherwise. You’re a gamer, I’m a gamer. THAT’S IT!

  13. Brian April 23, 2009 at 4:23 pm

    “There is a ton of stuff on the internet. What am I supposed to do to get my stuff noticed with people like Raychul around? Pay for advertisements? Spam emails to people? Or fight fire with fire and show off my body?”

    Well, you could do what the gamer guys who want to start a website have to do. They don’t even have the option of showing midriff to get viewers.

    • Kristianna April 24, 2009 at 11:48 am

      Well technically they can I just don’t think it will have the effect your looking for lol; however, I do believe this could be very effective for publicity if a humorous spin was put on it.

  14. Jay September 30, 2009 at 11:37 am

    Well I can you you when I stumbled onto you guys I didn’t even know this picture or article was made. I think a good way to show both sides of this argument is by saying two names. Oliva Munn and Morgan Webb. One uses her body and flirty bantering to get attention. While the other I would marry in a heart beat just on how she speaks, thinks of games, and looks fully clothed! The other thing is clearly the girls who game and dress sexy become booth girls. The others who are sexy but don’t need to show it to get attention get through how they work,show games, and their p.o.v.
    Great Article!

    • Kristianna January 8, 2010 at 1:23 pm

      Very good point. I do believe that women who don’t need to subject themselves tend to get further, but it’s more so the point on how we perceive it. Many women feel that the only way to be heard is with their body.

      It’s a confidence factor, and I guess our goal is to promote more of it amongst girl gamers.

  15. David July 10, 2010 at 1:15 pm

    Being a guy your picture did grab my attention, sorry thats how I’m hard wired, but I do agree that it is very sad that girls have to sexually degrade themselves to be noticed.

    I agree with Peter a girl that plays games is hot, haha, that means I don’t have to waste my time pulling shit out of my ass to talk about that intrest her since we actually share a hobby. I know for damn sure I lose cool points when I go so far to mention a game to my girlfriend.

    And to end my comment, that probably wont be read, you are gorgeous and I’m not just talking about your photograph, the fact that your willing to voice your opinion. I’m so fucking tired of the girls that stay ignorant because their looks make them, its fucking gross. Guys do the same thing and its equally repulsive, but I guess we do need some people to be our McDonalds cashiers and Wal-Mart bag boys

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  17. Chris January 22, 2012 at 10:42 pm

    Interesting article…but do you want to know how i got here? Googled for Raychul porn!

    And let me tell you another truth, the “Sex sells”-Story is just a lie. Do you really think we see raychul as a game-reviewer and click her channel for reviews from a hot-babe? In reality we give a shit about what she is talking about, she could also say nothing and would have the same amount of clicks on her channel. For us, she is just jerk-off-material nothing more nothing less.

    In fact if we really want to get information about a game, we also watch factual and serious reviews (for example your reviews). But the true story is while we are surfing through the inet we think ten times a day about fapping and one time about getting serious information out of it. Thats the only reason why she is so famous 😉

    Thoughts of a (boy) gamer

  18. RG February 6, 2012 at 8:05 am

    Everybody here is wrong. Raychul is the strangest most bizarre white female on planet earth. When I watch her I’m dumbfounded. She is completely insane. She is a true for real one of a kind freak. She gets tens of thousands of hits. She is a star in her own mind first, and in real life second. As all stars must be. Girls don’t compete? You better believe they do. Attention is what every girl craves in the dark pit of her soul. Attention is power. Any girl who says she isn’t jealous to the point of murder of any other girl who gets more attention anywhere for any reason is lying. Guys will kill to win. Girls will kill to be noticed. It’s called “natural selection” and it imprisons our race. So forget it and game. By the way it’s clear that Raychul is a straight up consoler. No PC game makes her top 10. Popularity has it’s price.

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